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Originally Posted by MarianneJ
That is actually a very offensive thing to say to me as it obviously implies that I do think of these occasions as merely a financial transaction.
My point remains that I only choose to attend weddings of those I truly care about, so I am as generous as I possibly can be.
The reason I am frugal is so that I can be generous with those I love. Not to horde it all for myself.
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I agree I didn't phrase that well
at all. I was upset myself because somehow your post seemed to indicate that I'd be giving little because I didn't know people well. I apologize.
Because I offended you, I'm guessing that's what you lobbed back the "horde it all to myself" line. I guess I asked for it as I was snippy. But really, since I indicated I gave $150 as a gift the last time, when the meal cost $6.50 per head, I'm not sure that it's right to imply that I want to horde my money, or that anyone who doesn't pay attention to the price of the meal wants to horde money.
My point, originally, was that I didn't think that the cost of the dinner or the wedding in any way should dictate the prices of the the gift given. I don't have a probvlem with people being generous. What offends me is the idea that the generosity is dictated by the scale of the wedding. I would have give the $150 whether they eloped or had a $30,000 wedding.