That $100 has to cover 2 plates, so not $100 per plate. Our wedding was as frugal as I could possibly make it, but it also had to be kosher so more expensive than many other options. Our wedding was probably the least expensive kosher wedding reception in the history of Judaism
, and it cost us about $35/plate. I consider $50 per plate (so the $100 my DH and I give) as low as possible while still trying to cover the expense of the new couple. I hate knowing that I am not really giving them a gift because they will be paying more for my presence than what I can comfortably give. If I am physically attending someone's wedding then I am obviously a close relative or best friend of that person and I am going to be as generous as I possibly can. Do you all attend alot of weddings where you hardly know the couple or what?
If you can handmake a gift or take the video/pictures that is AMAZING. I would appreciate that more than any amount of cash. My whole point is that, if I am giving cash then I am going to give as much as I can since these are people who I love and care about.
As far as my own wedding, if others had not been involved our wedding would have had 100 people LESS and cost us much less, but you've got to also keep the parents and in-laws happy. Everything is give and take, especially if you want to try to keep a happy family before you are even a member!
