[fairy74]

I agree with others that you need to post more details for more informative answers. May I also add that you seem very angry at people receiving public assistance (although you yourself want to qualify to receive it), please remember you and your wife made the decision to bring another child into the equation (the people on public assistance did not make that decision). I agree that it would be a shame for you to divorce or annul to qualify for public assistance. Have you tried religious charities, etc...I am sorry that you find yourself in this situation and hope that you will find the answers you need.