[creditnet]

I feel the same as you. And seeing from the post history that many people feel the same way, I've come to the conclusion that the outcome of the situation normally depends on who receives the check. If I get the check, I'll figure out what I owe, then pass it onto the next person. However, if someone who is much more relaxed about money (who oftentimes happens to be the person who has ordered 2 glasses of wine while everyone else has had 1 or none), then that person will simply say "let's split it", and that is that. No one wants to feel cheap speaking up.

So when I'm out in groups, I try to always get the check and pass it on.