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Letter of Instructions: (I've been wondering where I could post this info. Glad for this thread.) There is a REALLY TERRIFIC resource available for FREE. On Jonathan Pond's website, you can download a free "Letter of Instructions." It is the perfect supplement to Your Will/POA/Health Care Directive. In it, you fill in all important information your loved one(s) would need to know after you die: who to notify, funeral arrangements, locations of all accounts and important documents & files, insurance, etc. My sister & I have both completed our letters and exchanged with each other; our husbands also know where they are. I showed it to our attorney who prepared our estate planning documents; he was so impressed by it that he has started referring his clients to it. Here's the web site:
http://www.jonathanpond.com/letterofinstructions.html
If any of you are the primary money manager in your marriage and concerned that your spouse won't know what to do once you're gone, preparing this letter will give you incredible peace of mind. It did for me.