[boefixepa]

I agree with Pear...that's my thoughts too...so if my kids think they are getting a hand out when I die....well they will know they are not...sorry...Love ya, but not putting a price on my head. I will (hopefully) have prepared them to take care of themselves.

I also can't make someone do what I think they should do...all I can do is live my life with the best value system that I can. Will others take advantage...probably, but that does not give me the right to do the same.

As far as the orignal poster, you're right, a very complicated situation. Personally I think you and your brother owe it to your parents to 'buy them out' at a resonable price. In your situation I certainly think it's time to get some legal help dealing with all the details since things are so intermingled.