[Marcymox]

this happens frequently on one particular board I go to . One lady said she felt like she "deserved" to go to the salon and get a manicure because she had done so well saving and paying off debt. Maybe... but I find it odd that the members of this debt no more board encouraged her to go out and do that- get a manicure ( which is NOT a nessesity) to feel better. Ah! retail therapy strikes again.

I wanted to tell her to soak her fingers in soap, and get a 10 cent emory board, 94 cent nail polish from wal-mart and give herself a home manicure. no one really "needs" a manicure. You might "need" a special kind of lotion for a skin condition, or special kind of expensive cream you must budget for ---- that sort of cosmetic need is understandable, but no one "needs" a manicure or a pedicure.

most of these people you speak of really don't have the foggiest notion the difference between a "need' and a "want"

a "need" is something you have to buy or obtain because it's impossible to improvise, do without or find a suitable substitute. take, clothing for instance. we all "need" to clothe ourselves- but we don't 'NEED to clothe ourselves form Nordstroms, - Target will do fine. or the thrift store.

so when these people post saying they just lost weight and "need' new clothes- yes, they do- but everyone encouraging them to go out and get new clothes should probably keep in mind, suggesting Ann Taylor or Macy's for new clothes isn't frugal- you may "want" high priced fancy schmancy clothes to make you feel good- but all you really "need" are some basic simple pieces to cover your bod in a modest way.