We usually do a big family party. We usually have a meal and I make the cake. We've had a couple pool parties at Grandma's neighborhood pool. We also like to go to a local farm where they have a "play barn" and horses to ride. To do this as a package deal costs $160.
You get a cake and party hats and someone else cleans up your mess and you get to eat indoors. I don't do it that way. I bring my own cake and we eat in a shelter outside. I pay $2.00 per child to ride the horses and play in the barn. We generally have 7 children so that works out to $14.00. Not bad!
Those parties are generally weekend events. We like to go out to eat for their actual birthdays. This generally means Burger King's play area or Chuck E. Cheese.
Fun for all!