[mariec99]

When businesses and colleges look at myspace or facebook...I think they are not looking for the actual drug references, nude photos, etc. What they are looking for a a demonstration of good judgment. If Jane and John Doe feel it is appropriate to make drug jokes and post fetish pics of themselves in a public forum, how can they be trusted to represent the company/college and to make sound business decisions. What if they bragged about cheating in school on myspace? Should a college ignore that? Here's the rule: Don't act like a fool in public if you don't want people (or employers and schools) to think you are a fool. And like it or not, the internet is a public forum.

The bottom line is judgment - something lots of people in our society lack in droves. The area of the human brain that deals with judgment does not finish developing until the early 20's. That's why adults need to teach them to make sound decisions and think things through.

Which brings us back to the teen step son in question. He needs guidance. I am still concerned that the step mom is more concerned wiht the situation than the bio parents. It might be just that the Step Mom is the only one receiving communication from the teachers. It is up to the bios. How much time does the son spend with his Dad? I am guessing, very little. It sounds like he is sent to Bio Mom and then when he visits Dad, Step Mom is the primary caretaker. How nice for Dad - how relaxing to be a parent and have everyone else do the heavy lifting!