[cicy33]

As a mother of 4 step kids that are here every weekend several thoughts, don't give up on a guy just because he had kids with someone else. that would be the same as saying that me being a mother should not have someone who is not the father of my child. yes, there are problems but there are always problems! I have friends who are the actual parents, still married and have more problems than I do!

Now, however, you have not mentioned how the child's father feels? If he is concerned as you are, one major step you can take is not allowing the internet while ss is there. either unplug it, if it is a cable modem, unplug and take it with you. You do have to understand that since he is not yours and he does not live there with you full time there is really little you can do. I have had to learn the hard way. And as much as you are concerned the only thing you can do is express those concerns to his mother and father and they are going to have to take it from there. believe this or not you have no legal standing with this child. Even as their step mom I cannot take the kids to the doctor without a note from their parents. I am not considered a legal guardian in the most important ways. the school will let me pick them up but only if their mother has called first. So, if his dad won't help you and if you have called the mom and she won't help then I would make it clear to him and his father that there will be no further internet activity while he is there since he is obviously doing things that are immoral at best and illegal at worst. you don't want to get into trouble.