[boefixepa]

This thread has just pointed out to me again that I think and see things differently. The starter of the thread asked have you not accomplish some goal because of finances....I honestly can't think of one. Now there are the goals I have of finding a guy, marriage and children. That is taking longer than I would like, but that involes another persons agency and I can not control that! Now I already have 'back up' plans to adopt if I get to a certain age and still have not found a guy. I know the money it requires and and working on getting in a good financial state if that becomes reality. Now that's me.

Maybe I don't think about so much as sacrifices rather than choices. Personally I'd give up quite alot to have the kind of marriage relationship I want, but I will NOT marry a man that I have to carry through life, I'd rather be single. That's a choice not a sacrifice. I don't feel I am missing out on being married because I know I'd be miserable inside...what's the point.

The original poster said he/she gave up the possibility of owning a house to live in an area that allows him/her more social possibilities. He/she points out that it is a choice and that he/she is happy with that choice. That choice made he/she feels that it is impossible to now own a home. ????

Is that true?? I don't know, maybe for him/her it is. But what I do know for sure is that as long as he/she BELIEVES that it is impossible than it surely is. I think personal belief in what you can accomplish and your internal desire to make those dreams happen plays a large part in it. Maybe that dream has just been...delayed for a while...in the mean time the gears and turning and means and methods are in mental game pool.

Yes, some dreams are just impossible fantacies, we all have them. But I really believe that most people can work to make even seemingly unrealistic dreams come true.

By the way..get for free... if I really felt that I wanted and should have another child and hubby was on board I'd work with what I had to make it happen.