[Joan.of.the.Arch]

I would love to hear this young man talk about himself as a child. I'd like to know more about what makes him tick. I grew up in poverty and while I think that is part of why I am creative, my creativity never extended to making money. Messages I learned from my childhood included:

-- There is really no one that is likely to hire me.
--No one has money to spend on the services I might provide.
--If it can go wrong, it will go wrong.
--People break promises.
--Good luck is not part of my lot in life.
--Don't take risks because life's necessities, being all I have, is what is at risk.
--The people who have money to spend live elsewhere and I don't know how make connections with them, or even where they live.
--No matter the good you do or how well you perform, you will not be appreciated or rewarded.

To this day I still have to fight that kind of thinking. The spirit was nearly crushed out of me. Thank goodness I did pick up other positive messages which have worked to my advantage. (For example, learning is great and formal education will help you succeed.)

Now, it surprises me to see how enterpreneurial my own kids can be, how comfortable they are with negotiating a deal or negotiating pay. They have had small a business before adulthood and have had to handle so many things--Things that even I have never done in 50 years of living. They never had to fear for their basic needs because their parents are able to provide quite sufficiently. I think that gave them a secure platform upon which to build confidence, optimism, and enterpreneurial forward thinking-ness (Is that a word?--No....)

We still live in a low income area. But I do see a few kids who are poor, but just have indominatable spirit and optimism. It astounds me. Usually their parents are the same, even if the parents never have really been able to pull themselves up.

I sure would like to know Farrah Grey. Don't you think he must be a really charismatic person?