[lynclarke]

OK- this is probably not a popular thought but when we got married our criteria for the guest list was - who would we turn to if we had emotional, financial, or spirtual problems? Or conversely who had we turned to in the past? Well, that narrowed down the list!

Spend the money on the marriage not the ceremony. The important issues like family time, thoughtful vows, and a stable life without debt is a whole lot more significant than whether or not your mother's co-worker said the flowers were pretty or one of your college buddies (who you will never see again) enjoyed the party. IMHO lynclarke