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Originally Posted by Broken Arrow

I've always been a frugal saver type, though compared to some of you, it would appear I still have a long way to go!

The biggest thing is motivation. You see, a major part of the reason why my ex and I divorced was because I finally got fed up with all the stuff she wanted and the non-stop piling of debts. I finally put my foot down and she got depressed, claiming that I don't love her anymore. Then she had an affair on me with a guy who didn't mind showering her with money. Things were obviously more complicated and murky than that in real life, but that's my take on it anyways.

Consequently, I was villified by her and her friends for being this ugly creature who loved money more than her. Coming to a community like this one it made me realize that if I was, I wasn't the only one! No, but seriously, I feel like that maybe there's nothing wrong with me after all. Instead, maybe I'm actually financially sensible for wanting to be debt free for the rest of my life!

Thanks, everyone!

Your ex sounds like my BIL's ex. When I finally took a stand and refused to give her money, she tried to kill me.