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Here is what I learned from my wedding (April 8, 2006):

1. If your mother had her wedding dress preserved (and it was done properly), consider using it. I had my mom's wedding dress and veil completely remade for $200. Unfortunately, after the dress was remade, I took it to the dry cleaners where it was ruined (then I learned dry cleaning is NOT recommended).

2. Silk flowers can be used after your wedding. My bridal bouquet is now hanging on the wall in my guest room. My centerpieces are now decorations in my home and my mom's. Plus, you can obtain your flowers very far in advance so it is one less things to worry about on your wedding day.

3. Pick free locations. Our rehearsal dinner was a luau held at our neighborhood pool. Other than decorations and food, the location was free. We have a volleyball court by the pool so it was a big hit to have BBQ and play volleyball. Our ceremony was held at an abandoned state park. Again, the location was free and the locale was so beautiful that decorations were minimal.

4. You can plan your own wedding if you have enough time. If you are organized and have at least 6 months, you can plan your own wedding without the help of a wedding planner.

5. If your wedding is not formal, a suit is a great option. My husband has used his suit twice since the ceremony.

6. Location, entertainment and food are the most important things to consider for your reception. If people are able to eat at a reasonable time and you have quality entertainment, everyone will have a great time. Flowers, favors, etc. are nice to have but don't make the event. We held our reception at a Zoo and the staff brought animals to greet our guests. It was unique without breaking our budget.

7. Officiate - some states allow a notary public to perform your ceremony. My aunt is a notary public so she performed our ceremony as part of our wedding gift.

8. Don't feel guilty for paying a hefty price for:
photos (what you'll have to remember by for many years)
food (see 6 above)
entertainment (see 6 above

9. Don't feel guilty for skimping on:
favors (lets be honest, most get thrown away)
transportation (do you really need a limo?)
excessive flowers
a huge cake (not everyone will eat a piece)
fancy invitations (again, most get thrown away)

10. Request gifts that help you with the wedding. My aunt and uncle provided the roasted pork for our luau rehearsal dinner. Considering all the other wedding costs, it was a big relief and delicious!