[cschin4]

Did you have the party yet? Actually, just keep things simple. 2 hours max! That is long enough for a party. And, keep the food simple. Cupcakes and juice boxes. Little kids like to get gift bags so I used to get some things at the dollar store for the kids. I quit doing that when my kids got older. The peak birthday times are between 5 to 8. So, just have the parties, let your child go to friend's parties, and have fun. This drops off significantly as they get older.
I have had assorted parties for my kids. I actually prefer to take the kids out even though it costs more. We rent our local YMCA for 2-3 hrs and it includes the use of the pool and a party room. I usually just get pizza and the kids have a great time. I have also had small parties at McD's (better for smaller kids as older ones tend to want to run around) and the movies. I really don't mind spending a few bucks and we have all had alot of fun.
Just making the day special is what counts. I always "set" the table with table cloth, etc for my child's birthday dinner. He/she gets to choose the menu, I cook it and then we have a small party for my child with just us. They enjoy that as well.