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Ways I Discipline Children.

I say do you see that chair over there? Then I point to it. Well if you don’t stop, you are going there in 10 seconds. If after 10 seconds and no improvement I take them by the hand and sit them in it. Then say you didn’t do what I ask. You set the punishment time, according to the age. I use a timer.
Then after the 10 minutes, say if you continue, you’ll go back again.
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I ignore all promises they make. I have no other siblings around. This is not a game.

When they throw tantrums I just make sure they aren’t hurting themselves.
Then go on about my business and ignore them I don’t even look their way.
If I did this would take place every time they wanted their way.

I set my rules and stick to them. I do not ask if they want a bath, I tell them it is bath time. Or time to eat.
If they give me a problem with getting their hair washed. I say o.k. time to water the flowers. Then go get the watering can. No problem after that.
I give them colored shaving cream. Let them paint each other. Then in 10 minutes out.
I warm up their pj’s while in the bath. When they get out, their nice an toasty and ready to jump into.
I give commands only once. I look each one directly in the eye. Then I know I’ve got their attention, and they’ve got mine. If not obeyed I act upon it.

I don’t argue, and I ignore all protests. I say we’ll talk later.

I explain all punishments. Then I say you hurt mama, because you didn’t do what I asked. Then tell them what would have made mama feel better.

Don’t over praise, just enough is all that’s needed.
I comment on all good deeds. Such as Great Job, or Wow you did that.
Hugs and kisses after.

When we go to the store I give them each 50 cents. Then I say if you act up while were in the store, you don’t get to spend it on the way out. Their usually very good.

When ever they act up I set a timer.

I am consistent with my punishments. They have to know there will be, a punishment for their actions.

Also I correct on the spot. I don’t wait until hours later, or when I get home.
Little ones have pea brains, they can’t remember that long.

I let mine help with the baby. Get the diapers. Oh what a big boy.
They need this. Hugs and kisses. too.

I let them pick their bedtime stories. If more than one child they take turns.

I let them pick out their own clothes. That way they don’t hang in the closet till they rot.

I go to the mall with them. They go off shopping on their own.
Just meet at a certain time. They don’t need a tail following them.

I let them pick out the foods they want to eat. I just watch and make sure they’re healthy.

If they took a toy away from another. I’d say in this house we don’t do that.
We wait until another is through playing with it.

If they don’t put their toys away, they don’t get to play with them for two weeks.

Bullies may get the swing or toy they want. But they usually end up lonely and friendless. Is this what you want? The answer is usually no.

“It makes me feel so good when I see you, sharing with your little brother, instead of hitting him”. This is what I said when I saw a hand going towards her brother.
Then I proceeded to say “ I like the way you two can get along, and I can trust you”.
It stopped the hand, and no hitting after that. That kind of praise is very meaningful. No hitting took place. Now if he had hit him, that would have been a different story.

We go bowling together.

We do several crafts together.

We just have a ball doing all kinds of things together. One big thing is horse back riding.
Their always wantin to go on o the trails. We do this once a month.

Kids will be kids no matter what. Give them a chance to be. Just make sure in the meantime, there is no biting, hitting, kicking and hurting another human being, while being a kid.

If they make mistakes, they will have to pay for them. You just teach them right from wrong before hand. Way too many people develop ulcers and other diseases, worrying about their kids.

Now the way I punish teenagers, is no movies, t.v. video games, or phone privileges.
The duration is usually two weeks.

If they drive the car, no keys for two weeks.

If they leave their bikes out, they don’t get to ride them for two weeks.
This goes for the younger ones to.

Or if they use the car, and don’t put gas in it. No keys for two weeks.

We've never had to do much punishing. We have too many fun times, to have worry about punishments.

I also tie a helium balloon on a belt loop of my kids pants- when we go to the mall.
This keeps track of the little ones in a crowd.

Some tips I learned years ago. Plus some of my own creations. My kids never have been troublesome. Their all very likeable young men and women. We’re very thankful.

Now I’m using the same techniques on other peoples, with success.

You have to remember, that when you punish, you still love them. They must also know this. But when they do wrong, it makes mama very sad. Mama doesn’t like to be sad, and have to punish. Mama would rather be doing something that’s fun with ya.

But I don’t yell. I ‘m not trying to scare, them into the next planet. I’m trying to correct.

PEOPLE OUT THERE MAY NOT AGREE. BUT THAT'S O.K. IT WORKS FOR US.