Don't worry if you feel overwhelmed. Just take it one step at a time.
Childcare:
Do you live close to a family member that can help out?
Web hosting:
Are you sure that's something you need? $22.50/month is steep, unless you have a viable online business. I'd get rid of it, or at least move it to a cheaper host.
Food:
That seems a bit high. Is it because you have children? If so, how many? If you're eating out often, I would recommend to cut that back.
Gas:
That actually sounds normal. Sadly. However, if you're going out just to goof off, I would recommend not to do so. Besides spending more on gas, you'll also be tempted to spend more on things you don't need. I recommend finding cheap activities that you'd be interested in at home so you can stay home more.
Weed:
Um, you can cut that out, right? RIGHT?
Car insurance:
Depending on the vehicle, this can be trimmed down. However, without knowing any details, I'm tempted to say just leave it alone. It's steep, but then, you ARE 21....
Cell phone:
Cut it back to basic service or perhaps a pre-pay if you can. Talk to your service provider about the latest discounts and deals. Even better if you can remove this expense entirely.
Student loan:
I'd probably leave this alone until the other debts are paid off, especially if you have a lower interest rate than the other debts (and you probably do).
Car note:
Um, can you go without the car? If so, can you sell it? May or may not make back much doing that, but hey, you'll also save on gas and insurance.
Personal loan:
What is this loan for? Seriously, what is it?
Credit card:
I recommend paying this off first. Once paid off, it can help you build credit and can also function as an emergency fund. That is, assume you can be financial disciplined. If not, I recommend cutting it up and not use it again.
Conclusion:
It seems like you have a good grasp of your personal finances. That's good. After this is to set up and stick to a budget, and I'd recommend putting all available funds towards paying off your credit card. From then, I'd probably snowball into the personal loan next, even though I don't know what that is. Probably student loan after that, but the car is fine too. It's your choice. Besides snowballing your debt, I would look very hard at each expenses that you have and figure out why they cost as much as they do and see if they can't be trimmed down or eliminated altogether.
I hope this helps. My compliments for wanting to take control of your finances while still at an early age.