Re: Need advice, Mother in law, wow
You know Flash, you might as well be describing my family.
My brother went to school out of state and my parents paid the bills for him to get a 4 year marine biology degree....then he got married during his last year of school to a woman 7 years older with 2 kids. Couldn't make enough doing marine bio work, so he switched to car mechaniac in dealerships.
Then they moved to PA, and he went back to law school while working for a Mercedes dealer. Now, he's almost out, but works as a paralegal for a drug lawyer office...
Well, this whole time, my mom has been sending him and SIL money to help out him and the kids...especially while things were tough. They have 1 kid of their own, plus the other 2. Well, my SIL went with my niece to Mom's house for a vacation and the two of them had a HUGE blowup! Brother had to drive down to pick up the two of them then turn around and come back to PA.
Now the two of them won't talk because somehow my mom has become the problem, and my brother won't admit that it was his borrowing the money, asking for cosigner, etc. that became the problem. The $$ became the guilt trip...
In his defense, mom only sent biological Granddaughter a christmas present, ignoring the other 2 kids. Then mom always says it's the SIL's fault, not his! SIL also has the oppourtunity now as niece is in school during the day to get a 2nd job to help the family, but shows no interest. I don't know how stay at home mom's cope when the kids are all in school.
It's gotten so bad my brother almost won't invite her to his graduation in May, she's clueless, but needs to know, but I can't/won't say anything along those lines, it's his decision. However, I do think it's a touch crass that he was willing to "put up" with her when he needed $ but now that he's doing better it becomes a "she's a problem" situation. It's not that I don't approve, but I'm not going to comment on it regardless because it becomes a issue of "two vs. one, etc...." Things are coming to a head soon though, I'm sure!
Sorry about that, just had to vent!
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