[PrincessPerky]

I doubt much you say will help, but if you practice some short remarks you might...

I know some short things dh has said have heled with our homeschooling (not aproved on his side)

Like when she says if she has it she wants to give it, well pretty soon she wont have anything! I doubt she noticed.

And it doesn't seem to be appriciated, if gifts happen all the time we would take them for granted (like running water!)

I dunno how to help her whining, but once my MIL used to always complain about DHs hair (long and curly, two things she hates) I threatened jokingly to die it blue and give her something real to complain about. I haven't heard one word since :0. dunno if you can find a similar break thru for your MIL.

On the boy staying home, she misses him... but she is doing him a disservice, I wouldn't suggest total cutoff, but I would take back the CC and kill the phone, actually I would suggest she pick. list the expenses and total it up, then suggest halving(or less) it her way. So all boys get money, but not all as much. then if your DH is cool with it take his third and put it in the bank for when she runs out from giving extra to the other two!