Re: Need advice, Mother in law, wow
Thanks so far guys, and the boys are the big sticking point and her relationship with ALL (including my husband) really bothered me until recently, she'd always comment that she'd take them back home in a heartbeat! (My mom, lol, if I witch about the hubby she'll tell me I'm a grown up and work it out, she ain't taking me back! Then she makes me tell her three nice things about hubby and will NEVER bad mouth him) I've finally realized that her saying she'd take my hubby back should not be a threat to me, if he were a man that WOULD go back to his mom he wouldn't have been man enough for me and I'd have never married him!
As for the youngest son, we're about to have a knock down drag out and it ain't gonna be pretty! He has used HER credit card to set up AOL on HER computer and is the main account holder, so I can see when he's online (which is ALL DAY) So I told her about it and told her I will NOT set up online banking for her as long as he's on her computer. She confronted him and he started hollering about how MY computer is on all day too. OHHHHH, that did it, shot off an email to him that until MY finances become THEIR worries what I do is NONE of his )(&^^% BUSINESS! That THEY are the ones that HELPED her get into this situation, she's paying THEIR bills, not OURS, she's cosigned for THEM, not US! That we're trying to help HER regain financial security for her retirement.
More on youngest, last year she set him up in a landscaping business, got him the jobs and did his books, let him use her CC's for supplies, etc. He brags that he made 62,000 of which 30,000 was under the table (and no, I'm NOT going to turn him in for this, just letting karma take it's course) He ran out of work in Sept, has not worked since then and is now out of money. He has a wife and a baby and a house.
I don't want into their finances, I don't even WANT to know, thats the sons and his wifes life and problem, but they are directly harming the mother.
Agian, so thankful for my mom, and right now telling her daily how proud I am of her, she raised 4 productive members of society, one is even mentally handicapped but financially independant!
This is just so sad and really going to come to a head and be ugly when it does, sigh, poor woman.
kj
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