[2moretrees]

Having lost my own husband last year, I feel for the heartache you are going through in addition to the financial difficulties. My late husband's medical bills left me over $50,000 in debt which I'm working off slowly but surely.

I agree that letting the children know what is going on is a right move to make. After that, you can do as you please and let them think what they want. I'm glad that you have your son and his family for some mental support. Just remember to take things one day at a time and you'll eventually see a light at the end of the tunnel.