MY husband passed away 3 weeks ago. We were on a tight (fixed income) budget. Now it's even worse. I will have only about half the income that we had together. In fact, I won't be able to pay the mortgage on the house for very long. I'm not sure if everyone realizes just what a situation I'm in. And even if they do, I think they will probably forget by Christmas. I would prefer not giving and not receiving gifts,just spending Christmas with my son and his family. And they will understand. But my dh had 4 sons and 3 grandchildren and they will probably just think I'm Scrooge. Should I try to get a message across to them? Or just let it go and let them think I'm the Wicked Stepmother? Or just how should I handle this situation?