Yes, and the problem is it's insidious even if you dont' want it.
With my grandmother. . .she went in for difficulty breathing, her husband died of asbestosis. . .they weren't sure she had it. . .they opened her up. . .sure enough, that's what it was. . .that's when she took a turn and went into respiratory failure and then went on a vent.
At that point, my mom decided DNR.
Anyway, it's a slippery slope. . .would have preferred to not even get there but the exploratory surgery (I guess that's what it was) to diagnose it made her worse and decline into that "nether region" between life and death. I suppose years ago, the surgery would have simply just killed her. Mesothelioma is very agressive from what I have seen anyway so no hard feelings for maybe accelerating the process. . .it would have been better to just avoid the ICU altogether. She could have been on DNR in the ICU for a long time and that would have been expressly against her wishes and ours.
It's just not as simple as saying, "I don't want to be hooked up to tubes and lines." The system is loaded against that.
It's a shame but the system will releive a lot of us savers of our money on our death beds. . .how much is questionable.
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