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Originally Posted by syracusa
I cannot even begin to imagine what it would be like if we didn't have this stable refuge abroad and were doomed to sink in the American system, along with most other Americans who have no other choice.
In the meantime though, we will have to deal with the Boston area for a few years as we are not yet financially ready to return home. We don't like it but it is what it is.
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syracusa,
This seems contradictory to me. If your stable refuge abroad was really a refuge it would also provide you with a stable source of income. Boston is providing you with an economic opportunity which your refuge does not.
I think you are going into this move with your eyes wide open. It looks like you have given it careful consideration. It is always difficult to estimate the costs in advance, but it seems to me that you have made some reasonable assumptions. What other option do you really have at this point?
You will find lots of different attitudes about moving here in the US. It is not something that goes with nationality. I think it is a combination of mindset and conditioning. My roots come from generations of farmers. My Dad made a decision to move away to seek out economic opportunity because there wasn't enough farm land to support more than one family in his generation. My cousins would not think of leaving the midwest. I on the other hand have made lots of voluntary moves (for promotions). I have stayed put for the last 23+ years, though I do think DH and I will move one more time when we find the ideal place to retire (we have been looking for it for over 25 years
).
Look, you know what kind of life style you want. You should pursue it (
that's the American way
). It really stinks that you don't have the option to stay put where you are. Hopefully you will be able to bolster your position in Boston and make your retreat to your hearts desire economically possible as soon as possible.