OK, this is going to sound harsh, but I think you may need a little bit of tough love.
It is clear that you are very bitter about your husband losing his job. Fair enough. It sucks. It's not fair. I understand your feelings and I think that the millions of other people in this country who have recently lost their jobs are probably a bit disgruntled right along with you.
However, I think it would do you a world of good to get over it. Go ahead and give yourself one or two days, a week tops, to feel sorry for yourself. Get it all out. Grieve your heart out. Cry all you want and stay in bed all day if you want to. Then when it's all out, get yourself up, dust yourself off and take your first step forward. Try to be GRATEFUL that your husband found another job instantly. That is a wonderful blessing. Now adapt. Try to look forward with excitement and make the best out of it. Being bitter won't help anything and will only serve to rot you from the inside out. You have to figure out a way to let it go.
I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I'm no stranger to hardship and I want to pass along what I've learned, for whatever it is worth. While mine is not financial, I have had to learn how to deal with a husband who is in the military, serving rotating six month on, six month off deployments overseas. We have been dealing with this for the past four years and will have to for the foreseeable future. We've also moved 4 times in the past 5 years to completely different parts of the country, so I know how scary that can be. You are right to want to gather as much info as you can about your new surroundings. It will be hard, but if you approach it with a positive attitude, it will be so much easier on you and your whole family.
I'm trying hard to be patient with some of your comments disparaging this country because I realize that you are coming from a place of deep frustration and disappointment. But it must be said that whenever I hear someone complaining about our country/system/leadership the same thought passes through my mind: if you don't like it here, you are welcome to leave. No one is forcing you to stay, and for you in particular, you may be happier in your 'home' country anyway. I truly wish your family luck and happiness.
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