Sorry you're havinga bad day.
Sorry your BF has no ideas about romance. Your last post gave me more info that brings a bit more perspective. I think his problem is more about lacking romance then being cheap because a man can be romantic and keep a woman happy without blowing the bank on her.
As to his daugther, sorry say but his kids should mean more to him then you, and this must always be the case. A significant other can be replaced anda re commodities but children are never commodities. I have two daughters and I bought them brand new cars, but I would never do that for my GF, and frankly I want all my wealth to go to my children and never my sig other....significant others must never be placed on the same high level as one's children.
Don't get mad but I sense a bit of entitlement in your words....do correct me if I'm wrong, but at the end of the day the BF should never be expected to give you a bail out or even a little bit of help financially, even after a possible marriage. His wealth should go entirely to his offspring.
Often women in financial trouble (not talking about you) will seek out a rich man to bail them out and "in he name of love", and these women have profound entitlement.
If this BF of yours lacks romance, then can his sorry a$$, but if this biggest issue is that he does not want to chip in to help your financial cause, don't hold that against him.
If I were you I would not go the BK route, at least yet. Too often "fresh starts" are more like ball and chain going on 10 years....that is too much time to be marked....I would suggest you (1) get some roommates going, (2) sale all your valuables, even the ones you have bonded and fell in love with, and (3) determine if there is a certification program or something that you can earn at night school or community college that could help you increase your earnings, (4) brainstorm ideas that will cause your business to increase sales 50% or more...it's very possible that your salvation lays within your mind right this very moment...evoke those ideas and set yourself free...
Now you can dump the current BF, however what makes you think a future high quality guys is going to be any more giving and generous to you? I'm 49 and the last thing I will ever do is give my sig a dime and the micro second she even looks to have some sort of entitlement, she is gone in 60 seconds....
Be your own Awesome Guy in your Life...
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