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I would like to thank everyone for taking the time to respond to my post and give me some much needed financial advice! Two things I was able to get out of this experience: 1- A huge amount of great suggestions and 2-Hope that we can get out of this hole we have dug. I appreciate all of the positive and helpful feedback. I posted on several sites to get the most information I could.

I thought that I would share our plan developed from all of the wonderful suggestions I received:

Storage:
- Move everything out of storage and into the house, asap.
- Begin selling all unused/unneeded items in the house.

Phone/TV/Internet:
- We need to continue our internet service as we need this for my husbands photography.
- We will be dropping our landline phone and Direct TV.

Mortgage and HEL:
- I have looked into refinancing with our current lender and have been told that there is not enough of a difference in current rates (home is at 5.25% and HEL is at 11.25%) for it to be beneficial. Note: our current HEL rate is 10.66%.
- We may still consider a short sale down the road, but only after we have made other adjustments...I think this can be avoided and we can hold out until the market improves.

Cars:
- We have inquired with our lender about refinancing, however the lowest rate they offer is 7.696%, so it is unlikely we will be successful with this.
- We will inquire about rates/refi options with other lenders.
- We plan to either trade them in for cars less than $2,500
or
- sell the cars and buy cars less than $2,500 (however, I am not sure if we can get an unsecured loan to cover the difference).

Insurance:
- We currently have our life, home and vehicle insurance through State Farm.
- We plan to talk with them to inquire about a lower rate for our vehicles.
- We also plan to call around to other insurance companies to check rates.
- We will also add a gap policy on the home and vehicles because we are upside down on those loans. I understand this is a small cost (only a few $'s per month).

Student Loans:
- We will request another deferral.

Tax Withholding:
- We have adjusted this in the past and currently get a small amount back and I don't feel comfortable cutting this anymore to avoid the possibility of having to pay in.

Groceries:
- We plan to utilize Angel Ministries (there is a location nearby) where we can purchase groceries for $30/week.
- I also plan to utilize coupons more and shop for cleaning supplies, etc. at our local dollar store. It is an extra trip, but will save money.

Day Care:
In our area having two children in day care would cost WELL over $200 a week. We live in a smaller town in Wisconsin, I'm sure day care costs are much more in other areas and I'm surprised at the criticism I've received about the costs we pay for day care. I would challenge anyone to beat it. We are paying my mom $150 per week (or $30 a day) for one full-time and one part-time child. We are already saving a large amount of money on our day care. I can talk with her about lowering this, however we recently lowered what we paid her by $100 a month (we were paying her $35 a day, but since my son is in kindergarten, we reduced this) and she partially relies on this income as she retired early to do us a favor and watch our kids. There are many benefits to her watching our children: she is their grandma, she takes care of light cooking, laundry, etc. while she is home, we don't have to take the kids out to a day care center, we don't have to miss work if the kids are sick, we don't have to stress or rush home if we're running late at work to avoid late fees, and the list goes on and on.

Second Jobs:
My husband receives regular business doing photography, mostly through friends and co-workers. This comes at little to no cost to us, except his time which is by no means a lot. I received some criticism about this, but so far there have been very few negatives and financial cost to us as his business is becoming well established and he has several repeat customers.

Pets:
We have two dogs (one is 12 yrs old) and one cat. Our pet expenses are food, litter and yearly exams (we rarely have to pay above standard yearly exam fees...our pets have been very healthy). Our children are very attached to our pets and we are not willing to find other homes for them.

Children:
To those criticizing the number of children we have: We have two kids we are very attached to and not willing to find other homes for. There is one on the way that we cannot do anything about now and are not willing to put up for adoption. I understand people have their opinions, but for future reference when responding to posts about families who are struggling, the feeback regarding our family was at times judgemental and not helpful to our situation at all. If it's any consolation, we do not plan to have any more children.

Overall, the feedback was very non-judgemental and helpful. I can't thank everyone enough for their advice!