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No way would I loan him more money and would also at least talk to Mom about her involvement.

But, the biggest kicker here would be for someone to go around me to ask my kids to do something and thereby putting me in the hotseat. I'd rip him a new place to sit for that one and he'd think long and hard about ever doing it again because the fit I'd pitch would be long remembered by everyone in three counties. Big No NO in my book, can you tell?

If he wants to do something nice for your kids in an effort to be reciprocal? That seems nice. BUT, I'd want to straighten that out as well. It would sound something like this..."You either are out of money (needing rent money) or you have money to blow? How about paying me and/or Mom back what you owe us and I'll treat the kids. Nice you want to do something for them, but let's get everyone squared away in the finance dept before we go blow more change!" There's ways to be a great uncle that don't require him to spend money he can't afford and owes someone else.