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Originally Posted by Well Spent
At what point in a romantic relationship do you believe you can trust the person enough to begin the sexual relationship? In other words, how much time should you take to make the decision?
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Originally Posted by disneysteve
As much time as you both need to agree that it is the right decision. If neither of you is ready, it is not the right time. If one of you is ready and the other isn't, it is not the right time. It is impossible for anyone to give a more specific answer than that.
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Originally Posted by Well Spent
It's all about compromise  I knew one week in what I want. But I want to be sure before I invest more in this. I figure 3 months will give me good info about him. Plus he's not ready to put out yet so I'm trying to be patient. |
One week in???? Are you sure you're not the one operating on feelings rather than he? He's not ready and you're trying to be patient?
I think I'd run if I were the guy here. Especially if you've "made a mistake" before and think knowing "one week in" is anything other than history repeating itself. This is obviously important to you... maybe more important than it should be.
At any rate, DisneySteve is correct. If he's not ready, then you need to back off. "Trying to be patient" will show.. and it will blind you to anything else. He knows what you want; he probably feels pressure enough.