Someone you were meant to be with? I believe that people think there are only one person they can be happy with. They are waiting for the perfect person. That person may or may not exist. My roommate is 32 and single. Why?? Too picky, waiting for a soulmate.
Truth is there are many women he'd probably have a fantastic life with and be truly happy with. I'm with my DH and fantastically happy! I also believe my high school boyfriend, very similar in personality to DH would have made me happy.
So to me, DH and I were right place, right time and we work at our relationship. It's not perfect, but we try.
Honestly? I am 30 now, and I have mostly single guy and girl friends. ALL have graduate or professional degrees. ALL are being too picky and waiting for the perfect person (soulmate).
To me it doesn't exist. To them it does.
I believe those in their 30s still looking are way pickier than someone in their 20s, especially early 20s. Everyone I know is looking for a graduate/professional degree. Stable job, career, money in the bank. Also you start to be very picky about looks as well. Then around 35 for women and 40 for men, I've noticed, the pickiness fades.
Why? Because everyone who wasn't so picky is with someone, getting on with their lives. They don't have time to travel the world, hang out for dinner, go do things on the weekend. They are busy with kids, work, a HOME. They have other responsibilities. This is already happening to my 32 year old roommate. He's hanging out with 22 year olds, and I don't think he gets how pathetic it's becoming. I told him he needs to give it up by the time he's 40, but honestly I think 35 he needs to stop, "going to the library to study."
When you are 22 and picking someone, it's more likely on physical attraction and then seeing if you get along. You aren't so concerned about how many kids they want, what career they have, etc. At least in my experience.
It's a very different mindset at 25 versus 35.
But it's up to the individual to decide what they will settle for. The soulmate who has passionate affair and romance of a dozen red roses ever week, super romantic getaways, etc? Someone who sees fireworks?
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