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Originally Posted by Well Spent
SO now you have your answer. You know how calculating and evil this woman and her father are. Congratulations, you dodged a bullet! Be glad it happened now. And be very careful about who you give your heart to next. It it important for you to work with a trusted counselor to explore why you were so vulnerable to a predator. It could be bad luck; but based on your thought process, I think your low self-esteem made you a target of this criminal.
Your story is another anecdote of why I am suspicious of marriage. On another thread, posters advise waiting until you're married to have sex. I can't think of a more ludicrous idea than that. Talk about marrying for the wrong reasons!
Again, really focus on yourself and your own goals for the next several years. If you marry, do not marry before 30 at minimum.You'd rather say "I wish I'd married years ago" than say "I wish I got to enjoy young adulthood, building a career, and learning about myself before legally and probably spiritually tying yourself to another person semi-permanently.
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I think your views on marriage and sex are whacked. Commitments are not built upon sex performance and age. Dedication, loyalty and love far outway superficial selfishness. You have to truly love someone to enjoy lifelong sex with one partner, you won't find that through new relation sex.
I knew my wife was my soulmate before we were married or had sex. We were married at 18 & 20. Despite our differences, I am excited to see her name on my cell phone, we still hold hands, she demands that we snuggle every night. Sex is meaningless if you do not have a greater bond than physical attraction.
Semi-permanently? Isn't that an oxy-moron?