Well Spent, I must respectfully disagree. I think having a successful marriage has less to do with marrying an under 30, abstinent partner and more to do with choosing the right person.
I am 24, met my husband online, married him when I was a virgin and have a great relationship. I chose my husband very carefully. It was a completely logical decision. I evaluated his family, his values, work ethic, how he planned to raise kids and even his views on finances before I made the decision.
We spoke to my parents and extended family too. If they had given me the red light on the relationship, I would have ended it immediately. We also went to counseling and regularly read books together on becoming better partners.
We are both pretty mature (he is 26), and entered into this relationship with clear, logical reasons for wanting to. Now that we are together, we want to travel, enjoy life and experience it together. Unfortunately, I am laid off at the moment, and have returned to finish school while he supports me. We have made the financial adjustments for our life during the next rough year ahead, and since we are on the same financial wavelength, it is actually easy, because we encourage each other to save and cut spending.
Basically, I think it has more to do with the individual and the individual's maturity level. I prepared for a relationship and was ready when it happened. Most women and men my age don't have a clue!
Good luck to the OP during this rough time. Be careful of her begging for mercy and a second chance!
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