DO NOT BUT IT! You don't want to. You will regret it instantly. You are working hard. You are working on a Master's degree and planning on med school. You have ambitious, wonderful goals. There's no good reason to rush into buying a property you don't want with someone who is pressuring you. If her dad is willing to put up 150,000 for a DP now, he will later on when you are ready.
Why does she want to move out so urgently? Why does she want this condo, at this time? Does she dislike your parents? Wouldn't it make more sense for her to put her time and energy into finding work rather than buying a property, especially if you won't have a salary while going to med school? Is she able to pay a mortgage during your schooling/residency? You're awfully young IMO to be marrying, but I understand your personal situation/ cultural beliefs may have dictated that. I think marriage at that age is really young in 2009 American culture. I wonder what the rush was, especially because you plan in a rigorous education for the next several years. You may have bitten off more than you can chew.
It really concerns me that the idea of divorce and running away is even floating through your mind. I would strongly advice counseling for you, alone, without her knowing, so you can figure out what your dreams and goals are. Don't tell her because she will get suspicious and try to strong arm you into doing things you don't want to do & telling you thoughts and feelings you don't sound ready to share with her yet.
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