All I can say is DH and I keep things separate and we are both ridiculously happy together. We have never argued about money or spending. We both contribute equally to the bills, then after that what's mine is mine and what's his is his. He is free to spend his money on anything he likes as am I. I have no desire to change our arrangement whatsoever. We are probably the happiest couple I know too! I say whatever works for that couple is what works for that couple. If someone is okay with joint everything - great for them. I will never do the joint everything thing.
PS - We do help each other out if needed. When he was unemployed for a few months I paid everything, and I know he would do the same for me. I take him on a date one time, and he'll take me out the next, etc. It all works out. We don't nickel and dime each other or anything. It isn't like I send him an invoice for his half of something. We both give to each other generously. We just really enjoy keeping our own finances.
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