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Originally Posted by DebbieL
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PS - If he doesn't save for retirement (which he does), then I guess he'll be working at least part time, and I'll be taking some nice vacations with friends  I may even spring for him to come along occasionally  . |
this is the part that baffles me. by no means am I judging. only trying to understand. If my SO and I reach retirement and he does not have enough to retire I could not just make him work while I go on vacation. Even if he was loosey goosey with his money. I would feel bad. To me that is just a part of the deal you make when you marry someone, you know, for richer for poorer, for bad and good, etc. I guess it works for some but for me no matter what it is a joint effort. and as Disneysteve said, sometimes I make more, sometimes he makes more. I just don't see how we could decide who gave more or how to split it?