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Originally Posted by disneysteve
This is statement is absolutely, totally, 100% untrue. My wife and I have been married for nearly 17 years and began merging our finances when we got engaged 18 years ago. Never, not a single time in 18 years, has there ever been any issue or discussion or even a mention of who earns what or who pays for what. That simply isn't how we live our lives. In our marriage, EVERYTHING is JOINT. The only accounts that are not in both names are our retirement accounts, since joint accounts aren't possible for that. If they were, those would be joint, too. WE pay for everything - not ME, not HER - WE TOGETHER. Yes, I earn a lot more than her. That's just the reality of our situation, but I would never dream of using that fact in any way to say that our situation isn't fair or that she isn't an EQUAL partner in the relationship. Any couple that would do that has far deeper problems than money.
What a stupid statement.  |
I'm on board with you on this. I'm in a similar situation in that I've always made more money than my DH and probably always will. It is even likely that he may be out of the work force permanently in a couple of years because of back problems. For us, we're a partnership. End of Story. It doesn't really matter who makes what. We're in this thing to the end so we might as well just get along. Sometimes I don't even think my husband remembers how much I earn.
Perhaps we're just lucky that we found like-minded companions when it comes to the financial side of marriage. I really have never understood the idea of the joint account, 'his' account, 'her' account. I realize some people use this so that each partner can have some of their own 'fun' money to blow on whatever they want. However, if it was something frivolous I'd still be mad about it whether it was part of 'our' money or just part of 'his' money.
On the flip side those couples who do use the separate accounts absolutely can't understand people like my husband and me who pool all the money and don't keep track of who earned what. Whatever works for other people fine, I just don't get it though.