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Originally Posted by disneysteve
This is statement is absolutely, totally, 100% untrue. My wife and I have been married for nearly 17 years and began merging our finances when we got engaged 18 years ago. Never, not a single time in 18 years, has there ever been any issue or discussion or even a mention of who earns what or who pays for what. That simply isn't how we live our lives. In our marriage, EVERYTHING is JOINT. The only accounts that are not in both names are our retirement accounts, since joint accounts aren't possible for that. If they were, those would be joint, too. WE pay for everything - not ME, not HER - WE TOGETHER. Yes, I earn a lot more than her. That's just the reality of our situation, but I would never dream of using that fact in any way to say that our situation isn't fair or that she isn't an EQUAL partner in the relationship. Any couple that would do that has far deeper problems than money.
What a stupid statement.  |
I understand your point Steve but his point is that if both people DON'T think its fair, there will be issues. Since you and your wife agree that your set up is fair, this really doesn't apply to you.
Perception has always been a big part of what is "fair". And I have seen a lot of people get divorced (paralegal here) because their perception of the marriage changed to unfair.