In many ethnic cultures, adult children, particularly women, live at home until they marry and move into a home with the new spouse. I don't think it's unusual at all that ScrimpandSave lives with her widowed dad.
That begin said, it seems that she really does want her own place and is really struggling with this choice.
ScrimpandSave, you might want to bounce your ideas off a counselor or a clergyperson. The grief over losing your mother, your concerns about your father, and your (developmentally appropriate) desire for more freedom and privacy are a lot to sort through.
If this were about money, I think you would have and could have moved out a long time ago.
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