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Originally Posted by SacredFaerie
Perhaps it's for the best. It really sounds like yall weren't exactly starting on the right foot. I mean if he's got all of that law school debt he's got to have some law income right? It sounds like you're paying for everything AND taking on his debt.
I dunno. It's your personal life and I'm not there. I hope you get most of your deposits back.
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It seems different because of the (I'm assuming) gender role reversal. The man broke the engagement, right?
This is a good example of why keeping finances separate until the marriage contract is signed is vital. I just a "House Hunters" show where a babyfaced 26 year old bought a foreclosed house for about $90,000 (!!!!) in Detroit and moved a girl in. I don't if he was charging her to live there but they had no marriage plans. They actually got giggly when questioned about their future. I've seen cases where women have gotten their man (the homeowner) kicked out of his own home when she accused him of assault.
I've actually found it common that women support men while they pursue education for high-paying careers like medicine and law. Often if the man leaves the marriage decades later, the wife tries to get payback for her investment in his career.
Scrimp in some ways is lucky that it's only deposits for the party she may lose out on rather than tuition or his other bills.