I'm sorry to hear about it. Glad your only out $10k. Trust me if you had gotten married you'd be out a lot more.
I will share some stupidity I have done with you
here. My stupidity with my BF and money probably cost me $2-3k.
Tuition to life is what I call it.
And by the way my wedding planner told me it's always better to find out sooner rather than later. Her first marriage lasted 8 months. Second time around she's doing much better.