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Originally Posted by disneysteve
Excuse me, but why is it up to the bride? Why isn't it up to the bride and groom together? Last time I checked, marriage involved two people. Shouldn't there be two people involved in the planning and decision making? I know there were two of us involved in planning our wedding.
Also, what happened to the tradition of the bride's family paying for the wedding? Doesn't that happen anymore? My wife and I didn't pay for our wedding. Her parents did. My parents helped out some. That's always been the norm where I'm from.
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In our case, it was up to me because I was doing all the planning for it. I would ask him questions, and either he wouldn't care or he would hate it. If he didn't hate it, I could make whatever decision I wanted to. If he hated it, we didn't do that. That's why we didn't go on a cruise (my idea that he hated) and instead went to a cabin in Tennessee (my idea that he liked
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It was also up to me because until we were married we had my money and his money...we didn't mingle that until the day we got married. So, since I had money and he didn't, I paid for it. His parents did pay for the rehearsal dinner, though.
Also, I know more about how to come up with deals on ebay, etc., to make it cost less.
We were having a Catholic wedding and he isn't Catholic, so all of those decisions were up to me, simply because he didn't know much about the ceremony.
I remember when I was in the second grade. At that point, we had 5 girls and 1 boy in our family. Dad told us college and our weddings are up to us, because he couldn't pay for it. We now have 7 girls and 2 boys in our family...and 5 of us have paid for our own weddings, and 7 of us have paid for our own college (the other two are still in high school). In my case, I was older when I got married and have a good job, so it was a little easier for me, but the other 4 were younger with not such a good job, so they just had a little less of a party.