Uht-oh, this might be one of those ten foot pole questions.
Yeah, you might not have worded it the best way. I can see how this opinion could really cause offense.
I'm a parent, but there certainly were some serious responsibilities I took on when single that I took because I was single and someone needed to do it. Things that would have disrupted the lives of married and especially folks with kids. So I did it, because I felt I was freer to give it the time.
I had an incident where the non-parents around me came to me and barred me from my work responsibility one evening because they wanted to protect me as a new parent. It would have involved my having to work with a pregnant mother who had jumped out of a window and we did not know yet whether she and baby were alive, dead, splattered, or whole. Yes, I could have done the work, and it was going to be awful for anyone, but my workmates thought it best that one of them, as a non-parent, do it. That was a sacrifice.
On the other hand, the first thing I thought of when I read your message was how I have seen some people positively transform their lives when they became parents. I've seen a few people act akin to having had a conversion experience when they had a child.
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