True enough Maat -- but this change of their son is a change to their view. They are not dealing with the same person; in their mind their son has changed. They may not know why.
Here's another real life happening. Family with multiple sons. Youngest is sent to college. Does well. Meets girl. Falls in love. Girl does not return the feeling. Son looses it. Leaves college. Family at this point does not know where their son is at. Months later they get a call from the police. Son is in custody. Son has been living on the street, and committing crimes. Son is being taken to a mental facility to be held until court and for assessment. Family goes through the court systems and son will always be incarcerated and living in this mental prison for these crimes. He will always need medication.
Why? Becasue the son lost it and could not find help at the time he needed it? Because the son was to proud to go back to the known secure area called home? And because son hurt other innocent people and took out aggressions/frustrations on others because of this loss of control.
It's easy to write about things that I'd do; but I know too that if this were my son, I'd probably be blind too.
What if this were your son Maat? What if your son had changed by some event in college? What if there were still so much anger that he were to yell and scream at anything you say or try to do to help him? What if you felt that your son had suddenly become a stranger to you? That you no longer knew him?
These people have a choice. Their son came home. The Dad is asking the question because he does not know what to do. All he knows is his frustration. And it's affecting his familiy life.
I don't know exactly what the situation is here. Neither can anyone with a few written words.
Questions....get help for your son. Find someone who can talk with him to find out what is really troubling him and go from there. Find a doctor that is fully qualified.
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