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Originally Posted by Seeker
I guess I've seen too many instances of "care" for depression, fail, including a friend of mine in HS who attempted sucide and was in the hospital for several months afterward. Her feelings were mostly due to family concerns; or rather her feelings about her family. She would have always been better off without them; and she did go on to live with her grandmother "better" than she ever could with her immediate family.
We all make choices and it sounds as if this "family" is disfunctional by viture of H & W not agreeing or not sticking by any agreements when their son starts over-reacting. 22 years of age is sorta late to introduce a different parental behavior to the son, but then it sounds as if they didn't have to before either.
Questions wrote:
The above struck a chord in me, and "college" seems to be what changed this son's attitude. If I knew what happened in college, all of what I've written might change. The pre-college sounds very different from the post-college. And thereby, until Questions posts what happen in college (if he knows) introducing "serious tough love" could be a mistake in this situation.
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In that case, the people closest to him should have a better idea of how to handle him. If he showed no signs of this behavoir before college, you might have a point. But if this is an on going problem, I would not coddle him. One thing I do know is, if you keep doing the samething you can expect the same results.