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Originally Posted by Seeker
Okay, that makes a lot more sense.
Trust to do the right thing is in-line with respect. There may not be one-word for that feeling. Almost trust but with the knowledge that the person will make the right decision with the love and consideration that a parent should have with his or her child. Each situation is slightly different; each child is unique in their needs as well.
I just have the feeling that for this poster and his son, that there's more to it. 22 years of age is awfully old to be "screaming" at one or other parent. Seems to me that he (the Son) needs more help from a psychological point-of-view.
Some people also mentioned peers. The Son should already be aware of the peers situation. If he's staying out until 7 AM with his friends and comes home to sleep, I assure you that his friends are not living with their folks.
His friends may or may not be contributing to this situation, but again, the Son is probably still depressed and IMO shouldn't be given ultimatums or kicked out without any help. The Son needs to get out of himself in order to get out of his depressions.
The Son may always need medical help. Depression (without reason) is a disease. Non-disease reasons for depression consists of major-life changes: death of someone "close," loss of job, etc. <-- these are "temporary" causes of depression and can be resolved over time without medications. But long-lasting depression without reason is not the same.
Something changed for the Son -- at college. We do not have a response from the OP to that.
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I must admit, I don't make allowances for depression or disorders. I believe when someone yells at their parents, stays out till 7, lays around and won't work they have a behavior problem of their own choice. Much of which is built upon, poor parenting. I raised my girls teaching them that they will have to go get what they want in life and do it without embarassing the family. Both are class A citizens. IMO, OP needs to introduce some serious tough love.