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Originally Posted by maat55
Fear may be a strong word for what I'm saying. They never had to fear me fisically, they just knew I meant what I said. Because the police have a controlled system they go by, makes you respect them or else, so to speak.
Example: One day my younger daughter was driving in a parking lot and another car backed out and hit her. Her first response was to cry afraid I would take her car from her. I told both my daughters, that if they ever had an accident I would sell their car. What I didn't say was an at fault accident. Obviously, she was not in trouble. The guy that hit her was 16 and was his third wreck in a month. He would have only had one in my house.
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Okay, that makes a lot more sense.
Trust to do the right thing is in-line with respect. There may not be one-word for that feeling. Almost trust but with the knowledge that the person will make the right decision with the love and consideration that a parent should have with his or her child. Each situation is slightly different; each child is unique in their needs as well.
I just have the feeling that for this poster and his son, that there's more to it. 22 years of age is awfully old to be "screaming" at one or other parent. Seems to me that he (the Son) needs more help from a psychological point-of-view.
Some people also mentioned peers. The Son should already be aware of the peers situation. If he's staying out until 7 AM with his friends and comes home to sleep, I assure you that his friends are not living with their folks.
His friends may or may not be contributing to this situation, but again, the Son is probably still depressed and IMO shouldn't be given ultimatums or kicked out without any help. The Son needs to get out of himself in order to get out of his depressions.
The Son may always need medical help. Depression (without reason) is a disease. Non-disease reasons for depression consists of major-life changes: death of someone "close," loss of job, etc. <-- these are "temporary" causes of depression and can be resolved over time without medications. But long-lasting depression without reason is not the same.
Something changed for the Son -- at college. We do not have a response from the OP to that.