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Originally Posted by Seeker
Wow Maat. I find myself massively disagreeing with the 2nd paragraph here, especially the word "fear." No child should feel afraid of either parent. Respect comes before love, yes. The other paragraphs and words are fine... and agreeable. Maybe "fear" is the wrong word?
How can anyone "respect" someone they fear? How can there be "love" when there's "fear?" And do you "fear" stangers automatically before any other feeling?
Ultimately, there's no "trust" with strangers until that person has earned the trust -- but people are given the benefit of the doubt until they've directly proven otherwise. Should a son or daughter be given any less? Should "fear" really be part of the equation?
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Fear may be a strong word for what I'm saying. They never had to fear me fisically, they just knew I meant what I said. Because the police have a controlled system they go by, makes you respect them or else, so to speak.
Example: One day my younger daughter was driving in a parking lot and another car backed out and hit her. Her first response was to cry afraid I would take her car from her. I told both my daughters, that if they ever had an accident I would sell their car. What I didn't say was an at fault accident. Obviously, she was not in trouble. The guy that hit her was 16 and was his third wreck in a month. He would have only had one in my house.