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Originally Posted by maat55
The reason my kids did what they were told and grew up responciable is because they knew I would not let them do otherwise. They love me just fine.
Your kids should in this order: Fear you, respect you and if they choose, love you last. Your first responsibility as a parent is to raise productive, honest human beings, not spoiled brats.
Many parents love their children the wrong way. Not preparing them for adulthood is the worse thing you can do. Same goes for parents who let their children become fat and lazy.
If you really want to help this child, treat him like a total stranger and expect from him what you would from anyone else. He wouldn'y last two minutes in my house.
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Wow Maat. I find myself massively disagreeing with the 2nd paragraph here, especially the word "fear." No child should feel afraid of either parent. Respect comes before love, yes. The other paragraphs and words are fine... and agreeable. Maybe "fear" is the wrong word?
How can anyone "respect" someone they fear? How can there be "love" when there's "fear?" And do you "fear" stangers automatically before any other feeling?
Ultimately, there's no "trust" with strangers until that person has earned the trust -- but people are given the benefit of the doubt until they've directly proven otherwise. Should a son or daughter be given any less? Should "fear" really be part of the equation?