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LivingAlmostLarge and I sound as if we have the same hubbys.

My DH cares too, he just does not want to deal with it. His past financial history includes a BK and pre-meeting DH, I already had a condo, car fully paid etc. He too, knows that I'm financially responsible and trusts me with the $'s we earn.

He cares and he also wants to help. But his concept of outgo and income does not relate. He just does not keep track of things well (selective memory?). Pre-planning and sticking to it for the goal down the line is what he has trouble with. That's why we had to give each other an allowance separate from the budget.